My Definition of a Real Man
Written by Mojola Fatukasi    Share on Facebook
Thursday, 21 February 2008
Mojola FatukasiI was talking to a good friend of mine and I told him to be a “man.” His response to me was “what is the definition of a real MAN from your perspective?” There are some characteristics a guy has that will differentiate if he is a man or a boy. Besides the obvious physical characteristics that tell the difference, please do not be deceived that a 30 year old male is a man. It’s hard finding a real definition of a ‘real man’ because people have different tastes.  From my perspective a real MAN is someone you know can take care of you, not only that, but someone you can count on and who will always defend and at the same time respect your independence any day. When you start seeing your man as a pillar and an essential factor in your life then he is a real man. Not that we ladies need a man to buy us the most expensive stuff but knowing that he has even the slightest potential to be able to afford it in the near future is enough to keep us coming back. With that said, I’ll give you an example of a real man – my MAN!

I know without a shadow of doubt that my MAN is not the type of person to just sit on the couch all day, eating and complaining about some system that is out to get him. He works hard everyday to improve himself and he has his goals that he’s working towards.
  • He knows how to hustle – BIG TIME! He works 30 hours a week and goes to school full time. He is NEVER late in paying his car, insurance, and phone bills, because he knows the consequences that may hold for the future.
  • He is not lazy and there is nothing sexier than a hardworking man.
  • He is not the type of person to be satisfied being dependent on someone else.
  • He surprises me ALL the time. All I do is mention that I like something and if he can afford it, he’ll buy it—no need for any special occasion. It can be something as small as a TWIX bar because that is my favorite chocolate. If I mention that I’m craving chocolate, he’ll buy it without asking.
  • He loves me for who I am...flaws and all!
  • He shares his feelings with me and he knows how to own up to his mistakes. He is not afraid to say “I am sorry.”
The way he holds me; he has such a strong grip that lets me know that he has my back any day, any time.
This is my man and I’m so proud to be his girl. Remember not all these traits came with the package. I had to communicate with and tell my man my feelings. I cannot stress enough how important it is for couples to communicate their feelings and expectations to each other. Your partner is not a mind reader so if he does something you really like, thank him for it so that he will be willing to do it again without you prompting him. The same goes for when he does something that upsets you. There is nothing worse than bottling up your emotions because it is inevitable that you will someday explode. Always remember to SPEAK UP because this could potentially be the person you spend the rest of your life with.  Good luck! 
 
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