Ask Mojo: Sabotaging Your Relationship

Many of us women are notorious for sabotaging our relationships without even realizing it.  Those little and sometimes big things that we do can send any man running for the door.  Good news is I have listed some things here that women do wrong in their relationships.  I have friends who have made some mistakes and here they are so that you can avoid them.  I mean why learn from your own mistakes when you can learn from someone else?

1. Thinking you can change him – I can’t stress how important it is for us women to face the fact that we CANNOT change our men.  If you don’t like something about him, you have two options; get out of the relationship or get over yourself!  Just like he can’t change you, you can’t change him also.  PERIOD!
2. Jealousy– all of us as humans have the tendency to let the green eyed monster inside of us come out once in a while.  That’s normal; however it becomes a problem when our entire existence is consumed by jealousy.  Any relationship is complicated enough without you making comments like “do you think she’s pretty?  Why don’t you go date her then?”  I have to agree with men when they say that because they look doesn’t mean that they want the girl.  If he wasn’t satisfied with you, he would have “peaced” out a long time ago. 
3. Dissing his friends- sure you don’t like your man’s friend but dissing them in front of him is a total NO-NO.  Think about it, you wouldn’t like it if he was dissing your friends would you?  Save the gossip for your girlfriends.  Its like dissing his parents and its obvious you are out the door if you ever do that.  Although it may not seem like it because of their machismo, but men value their friends just as much as we women value ours and are willing to protect them from anything. 
4. Picking at every single flaw-I know those nasty habits he has really gets on your nerves but complaining about them every single opportunity you have will only complicate your relationship. He will see you as a total nag and push you away.